Madly in love with my Husband Adam and proud Mama to our son Brodie James Basil & our rainbow, Ari Rupert. Here you will find me chasing happiness & surviving life after Baby loss.

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Mrs Carrick x

Tuesday, 10 July 2018

Tommys - #TogetherForChange

Baby loss. A subject no one wants to talk about, a subject so many try to avoid, a subject so many pretend doesn't exist.

Unless you are someone who has unfortunately experienced baby loss. Unless you are one of those 1 in 4.

Over the past two years that someone has been me.

Before falling into that statistic baby loss hadn't really crossed my mind. It wasn't something I ever believed would happen to me. You first see those two blue lines and 9 months later you welcome your healthy baby into the world, don't you?

I've learnt the hard way that it doesn't always happen that way. I have been that women who has left the delivery suite holding a memory box instead of a newborn baby, not once but twice...

After losing my girls at 18 weeks, facing the real world, announcing my baby had died and stepping foot outside my house was a huge, huge challenge. People who knew me, knew I had just lost a baby yet avoided me, Why?

Because no one knows what to say to the girl who's baby just died....

I had never felt so alone. 

Baby loss simply isn't spoken about enough and this causes further grief and isolation.

Fortunately, we have charity's like Tommys who want to help break the silence, break the taboo and their new campaign aims to shine a light on baby loss and bring everybody who has experienced baby loss together.

Men and Women should not feel ashamed, alone or embarrassed for losing a baby. They should be able to talk about it, and feel supported, loved and cared for.

This new video is a sending out a powerful message to show that not all pregnancies end the way we  hope they will. Along with this video there are 8 supportive videos which talk about different subjects such as 'jealousy, trying again and relationship changes'.

Tommys have also launched an online community which allow those who have experienced loss to join a community with others who have also experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or premature birth. It is a place where parents can post how they are feeling without having to worry about being judged or misunderstood.

I cannot explain how valuable this will be.  #TogetherForChange


To read about my experience of baby loss please click here.

Thank you for reading,
Mrs Carrick 

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